Archive for July 7th, 2008

07
Jul

It’s True Love When…

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Categories: Love

We’ll know one when we’ll feel one.  That’s how my guy friends would describe it when asked how would they know if it’s true love they were already feeling or not.  That was twenty years ago.  Two failed relationships, however, provided me with some specific and realistic answers.

You’ll know it’s true love when:

  • you can last a day without seeing or talking to him because you already feel safe and secure that at the end of the day, it’s you he’s thinking about;
  • you consider a "fight" as an opportunity for the relationship to grow rather than a reason to separate or break up;
  • you don’t even try to change his ways and instead accept the fact that change could only be initiated by him;
  • you don’t celebrate monthsaries or anniversaries anymore because being together every day is reason enough for celebration;
  • you don’t dare read the messages in his inbox or email account because you respect his privacy;
  • you don’t get jealous at all even if he ogles at those sexy ladies featured in FHM or Maxim because you know that those almost perfect bods are just products of Photoshop, artificial implants, or cosmetic surgeries;
  • you don’t make him your world and he still loves you just the same because he sees you as an independent woman with your own personal power and dreams; and
  • you don’t feel the need to ask yourself, "Is he my one true love?"
07
Jul

“Harana”

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Categories: EMOs and Music

“Puno ang langit ng bituin… at kay lamig pa ng hangin

Sa ‘yong tingin ako’y nababaliw, giliw

At sa awitin kong ito, sana’y maibigan mo

Ibubuhos ko ang buong puso ko sa isang munting harana… para sa ‘yo.”

I giggled the first time I heard Daniel sing this song. I wasn’t expecting him to belt out those lyrics which I was so sure he couldn’t yet understand. The angst behind those words.  The deep longing behind the melody. Nevertheless, I found it so cute that after his performance, I hugged him like there was no tomorrow.

According to an Atenista-friend, this song was composed by his batch mate Eric in 1988 when they were in high school.  It became a standard ditty of sort for those coñotic boys bitten by the love bug for the first time.  But for Daniel, singing it was more of an achievement than an expression of love.  Those were the days when all that mattered to him was to learn the first few lessons of self-mastery.

Whenever I hear this song now, it always brings back a flood of good and happy memories.  It never fails to put a smile on my face as I reminisce the excitement in his eyes and the innocence of his voice on that sunny afternoon he mastered his first song.  Who wouldn’t?  When Parokya ni Edgar revived the song in 1997, Daniel was only two years old.

07
Jul

Last Login: 24 hours

By lvbauzon1007 0 Comments
Categories: About Me and Happiness

Some of my friends are wondering why it seems that lately I am always logged in to my friendster account.  Well, as of now, I’ve got so much time to spare that I am maximizing the unlimited Internet connection we have at home.  Besides, when I get busy again, I don’t think I’ll have the luxury of time to do this thing which I really love doing — writing. So, bear with me puhhleeeezzzz.

I am a frustrated writer.  The first few articles I submitted for national publication never saw light. Thank heavens for blogs!  Now, I could share my thoughts with anyone who cares enough to read what I have to say.  I’ve always been fascinated with the power of the printed word.  At age 4, I already started scanning books and didn’t stop since then. 

After I finished my Mass Communication-Journalism degree in 1993, I didn’t get the chance to apply the skills and knowledge I acquired during my four years in college. My first job was teaching Grammar and Composition, Public Speaking, and Earth Science (!) to a bunch of Engineering and Comp Sci students.  Though I did scriptwriting for a while, it didn’t give me the liberty to inject my own ideas so I went back to teaching. Then I got employed in a government financial institution where I gave nine best years of my life.

Now, it’s time to shift gears.  While I am still contemplating on what I will do next, I’ll content myself with what I currently enjoy doing — logging in to my email and friendster accounts 24/7.

07
Jul

Wisdom from “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari”

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Categories: Life

Last night, I wasn’t in the mood to watch those teleseryes so I grabbed a book from my mini-library, a cabinet full of books and magazines covering a wide range of topics — love, relationships, humor, spirituality, science, wisdom, law, grammar, student activism, health and home, fashion, cars, and even … tuuut tuuut.

I settled for this little book which I bought last year because I was intrigued by its title.  At first glance, just because there was the word “ferrari” on its cover, I thought it was a bestseller about cars. And OMG, I was hooked the moment I started reading it!  It was definitely worth more than I expected.

Here are some excerpts from the book which, in a way, have greatly influenced my approach and orientation toward life, fulfillment, happiness, and destiny:

1.  “There are no mistakes in life, only lessons.  There is no such thing as a negative experience, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance the road of self-mastery.  From struggle comes strength.  Even pain can be a wonderful teacher.”

2.  “The secret of happiness is simple: find out what you truly love and then direct all of your energy towards doing it.”

3.  “A day without laughter or a day without love is a day without life.”

4.  “What lies behind you and what lies in front of you is nothing when compared to what lies within you.”

5.  “Unless you reduce your needs, you will never be fulfilled.”

6.  “Wage war against the weaker thoughts that have crept into the palace of your mind.  They will see that they are unwanted and leave like unwelcome visitors.”

7.  “Happiness is a journey, not a destination.”

8.  “Stop spending so much time chasing life’s big pleasures while you neglect the little ones.  Slow things down.  Enjoy the beauty and sacredness of all that is around you.  You owe this to yourself.”

9.   ”Change is the most powerful force in our society today.  Most people fear it, the wise embrace it.”

10.  “We are all here for a special reason.  Stop being a prisoner of the past.  Become the architect of your future.”

07
Jul

For Broken Hearts Only

By lvbauzon1007 0 Comments
Categories: Love
I may never understand your pains, same way that you’ll probably never understand mine. We have our respective bruised egos and hearts to heal that sometimes we just want to blame others for our heartaches and worse, hate ourselves for being stupid.
Go on, give your all hanggang sa walang matira because it is in emptiness that you will find your way back. I should know. I’ve been there twice. One day, you may even thank her for breaking your heart.
Sometimes, we have to hit rock bottom so we can bounce back wiser and stronger. You don’t deserve this, yes. On the contrary, this is what you probably needed to prepare yourself for life’s greater trials ahead.
Yeah, at the end of the day, the fact remains na ayaw ka na niya or hindi pa rin ikaw ang gusto niya. But then again, so what???! You love her too much without any demands or conditions and that alone already makes you one good soul because you are contributing something beautiful to the universe.
Fine, stay in love. Just make sure you’re getting back your love’s worth by becoming a better person out of it… at least.  Otherwise, you better let go and move on.
NOTE:  This is a portion of a letter I sent to a male friend years ago who was deeply in love with someone who was not that into him.  Baka sakaling makatulong sa mga makaka-relate so I posted it here. :)