Archive for October, 2008

30
Oct

Crazy Love

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Categories: Love and Music

Yesterday, I was organizing my files in my laptop when I came across this video of my niece singing Kim Chiu’s Crazy Love.  I was laughing all throughout her four-minute ordeal.  You see, she was already sleepy that night but I still forced her to sing the song for me.

I do not know why I’ve always liked the lyrics of that song.  Perhaps because it reminds me of the movie Ten Things I Hate About You starring Julia Stiles and the late Heath Ledger.  Despite the animosity felt by Julia’s character towards Heath’s, deep inside she was in love with the boy.  The more she hates, the more she loves.

There are really times in our lives when we fall in love with a person who is soooo wrong for us.  Meaning, he or she is not the epitome of what our ideal is.  But just the same, despite our growing hatred for the person, we learn to love him or her not because of but inspite of.

Why?  We’re sometimes so crazy when it comes to love!  That’s just all to it.

29
Oct

Licensed to Rant

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Categories: EMOs

I was so pissed off! 

I don’t know how on earth someone still manages to be so kapalmuks to ask me some favors when, in fact, he told me last week not to text him anymore.  And I did!  Madali naman akong kausap.

And last Sunday, inutusan pa ako to do something for him when he could do it himself?!  The NERVE!!!!  As if I was that obliged to do so. Dinedma ko nga. Inasmuch as I don’t want to talk about it and him anymore,  I couldn’t help it.   He keeps on doing things that I really hate and until now, he doesn’t know how to handle the situation properly.

Hay naku, waiting for someone to grow up is such a waste of time.  A person who seems to never learn his lessons needs to be left alone to figure things out on his own.

24
Oct

The Difference Between Sharon and Gabby

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Categories: Values

This morning, I went out to buy ice cream at Nepo for my nephew’s birthday.  Ang dami na palang klase at bagong flavors ng ice cream ngayon. But just the same, I chose to buy my all-time favorite— Very Rocky Road by Selecta.

There was a time I tried tasting the other ice cream flavors of various brands— Double Dutch, Cookies and Cream, Fruit Salad, Vanilla, Ube, Banana and Langka, Quezo Real, Mocha Delight, Coffee Crumble, Macapuno Special, Strawberry Dream, and those first two limited editions endorsed by Sharon for Nestle.  However, I’d always end up going back to my tried and tested Very Rocky Road.  I find it so yummy that I could finish a cupful in two minutes!

Through the years, I’ve grown to trust some other brands for my daily needs that despite the emergence of new and more promising labels, I chose to stick with the following simply because they work for me and I believe in them:

Shampoo - Pantene
Conditioner - Cream Silk
Toothpaste - Colgate
Body Essentials - Nivea/Body Shop
Facial Wash - Pond’s
Body Wash - Johnson’s Baby Milk Bath
Coffee - Nescafe
Hotdog - Purefoods
Juice - Tang
Vitamin - Fern-C
Pain Reliever - Biogesic
Ballpen - Pilot
Laundry Wash - Tide and Downy
Car Air Freshener - Glade
Dishwashing Liquid - Joy
Magazines - Summit Media
Newspaper - Philippine Daily Inquirer

Ay, stop na! Buti sana kung bayad ako dito. Hahahaha… There are a lot of other products in the market today ranging from personal care to home to food to entertainment. I noticed that companies are now using more celebrity endorsers to market their goods.

While this marketing strategy has rocketed their sales for a while, what keeps their products from being patronized by the consumers in the end is effectiveness and/or credibility.  Sadly, truth in advertising is seldom upheld in favor of profit.  For one, do you really believe that Gabby Concepcion is taking Lucida DS Glutathione?!? Come on! This is already the height of ka-cheapan. Maputi na si Gabby noon pa ano!

That is why I salute those celebrities who chose to endorse products that they themselves use.  At diyan ako bilib kay Sharon Cuneta.  She’d rather let go of a multi-million advertisement deal than put her credibility at stake.  In short, hindi siya mukhang pera.  I’m not really her fan but this fact about her made me respect the person more (despite her pa-cute ways particularly on her show “Sharon” that I really find irritating).

In short, being truthful in a lot of ways really pays.  People could tolerate your not-so-endearing quirks if you possessed the more important traits.

22
Oct

The Boy Who Cried ‘Wolf’

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Categories: Childhood and Values

This story is one of those which really made its mark in my young mind.  So strong was the moral lesson’s impact that eversince,  I was very afraid to tell lies lest I would also be eaten alive by the wolf.

I read the story somewhere when I was 6 years old, a time when I started to scout for books and other reading materials that do not just contain A-B-Cs, ba-be-bi-bo-bus, tiririt-tiririts, and the like.  I also got easily bored with Cinderella, SnowWhite and the Seven Dwarves, and Little Red Riding Hood because I knew that they do not happen in real life.

The Boy who Cried Wolf  is a story of the shepherd boy who deluded people with false cries of “wolf” that his real cry for help was eventually ignored.  It speaks of honesty and rectitude.  I’ve always used it as a very good analogy of how one loses his credibility by fooling people over and over again that when he’s finally telling the truth, nobody believes him anymore.

To some people, we need to lie once in a while to avoid hurting the feelings of others.  This premise was used in the movie “Liar! Liar!” starring Jim Carrey which, in a way, justified white lying.  My take on this is that perhaps it really depends on one’s motive to lie.  If it’s for a good purpose, I can still probably tolerate it.  Otherwise, one should really make sure na hindi siya mahuhuli or else, his credibility goes to the garbage.

In the end, however, no matter how one sees it, a white lie is still a lie.  And I would respect a person more if he’d just admit his mistakes and apologize than deny and deny until he dies.  A man branded as a chronic liar is no different from the boy who cried wolf.  When nobody believes him anymore, that is already tantamount to having been eaten alive  by such loss of integrity, honor, and decency.

 John Flavel wrote, “There are no little lies, because there is no little God to sin against.”

17
Oct

Blog Makeover

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Categories: EMOs

The only permanent thing in this world, they say, is change.  So for the nth time, I changed my blog design again.

In contrast to the poignant waterlily design in deep blue which this blog has sported prior to the change, this new layout is pretty cool and oh, so laidback. It looks vintage to me and I love it!  The leaves on the pavement and the non-metallic feel of stone on the sides more or less describe how I’ve been feeling lately—calm, relaxed, steady.

I feel good right now.  No major problems.  No heartaches.  No acads to think of.  No stress.  No pressure.  Alone but not lonely.  Loveless but not empty.

Sigh.  How I wish this could go on forever.

17
Oct

Calculated Risk

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Categories: Friendship, Love, Men, Music and Women

“Are we” or “are we not?’  Literally translated in Filipino, tayo ba o hindi?

This is the usual dilemma being encountered by a boy and a girl who are obviously in love with each other but are both afraid to bring up the issue on the possibility of taking their friendship or constant togetherness to the next level.  Since there is no formal courtship, special feelings beyond the showbiz-like “friends (na) lang kami” pronouncements are either kept and better left unsaid.

“Pa’no na kaya? …. Di sinasadya… Di kayang magtapat ng puso ko… Sa dinami-rami ng kaibigan ko, ikaw pa?…”

When I first heard “Paano Na Kaya?” composed by Mr. C for Pinoy Dream Academy, I instantly fell in love with the song.  It speaks of a person’s growing love for a friend.  If I were on the same situation, I’d also rather keep the feelings to myself than risk losing a friend who may not understand what I feel and worse, finding out in the end that the feeling is not mutual after all.

The song reminded me of several scenarios in the past where the boy gave extra (special) attention to the girl, only to be discovered later by the latter that the former was just that— trying to be extra friendly.  I’ve seen friends who cried over guys who seemed very interested in them initially only to back out or back off later once they sensed that the girl was becoming too serious with their unlabelled relationship.

This is the main reason why it is always safer to never assume anything from guys who seem interested but never pop the question(s).  More often than not, guys— in their younger years— only like to play and test the waters so to speak before taking the big plunge in their early or late 30s.   There are also those who openly flirt and try to lead girls on, only to claim later that “I never said that I love you.”   Ouch.

Sometimes, it’s really hard to be a girl.  Whether you agree with me or not, we still live in a patriarchal society where girls who openly confess their feelings to guys are being frowned upon.  Thus, I admire those who bend rules and defy conventions.  After all, we are all human beings who are supposed to have equal rights even in the game of love.

Despite this conviction, though, I am still a conservative at heart.  I still don’t have the courage to make the first move in settling the issue of “tayo ba o hindi”?  But maybe… just maybe, I’ll take the risk if the guy is so worth it!  But definitely, I’ll make sure that it would be a calculated risk.

Kung ang mga guys nga, takot pa ring ma-reject.. girls pa kayaaaaa?!?

05
Oct

Unrequited Love

By lvbauzon1007 0 Comments
Categories: Life and Love

Now I am starting to get confused whether I’ll post this entry in this Senti Queen blog or in my other blog It’s My World, Stupid.  Thus, I am making a resolve from now on that my ”more emotional or senti” entries will be posted here while my ”kikay or taray-mode” entries shall be posted there.

Unrequited love.  I think everyone, at one point in their lives, has experienced this.  Don’t get me wrong, guys.  I am not currently in such state.  I am just reminded of this sort of thing when it became our unintended theme last night during our KTV session (Gracey, Anto, Jeff, and me).

It was a night of singing songs about bizzare love triangles and of scenarios like mahal kita-mahal mo siya-mahal niya ay iba , mahal kita kahit na nagmumukhang tanga, kahit mahal mo siya mahal naman kita, mahal kita maging sino ka man, mahal kita hindi ito bola, and kahit anong gawing lambing di mo pa rin pansin.  So pathetic. Hahaha!  Anyway, we’re not that pathetic in real life.  Medyo lang…

I first experienced unrequited feelings when I lost my high school crush to another school.  Then in college, a crush either treated me like a younger sister, friend, or simply just a blockmate.  I had a lot of crushes who took my fancy for weeks, months, or for some, even years. But that’s all to it— a feeling of deep longing or admiration for someone who possesses a single trait or two that I am looking for in a person. 

The other day, a good friend forwarded this message to me: People say they love you at the right moments in their lives… then disappear at the wrong moments of yours. People do the sweetest thing when their love is new… then one day they just turn bitter and cold.  People fall in love and eventually somehow one day, they just fall out of it.

I admit, I am guilty of that at times.  But most often than not, I fall out of love with my crushes or boyfriends the moment I start to feel that my love is not being appreciated in return.  In short, unrequited.  A friendship may last a lifetime even if there is no mutual affection but a love relationship?? 

I don’t think a love will last if it remains to be a one-way street.

03
Oct

Friends

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Categories: Friendship

Sometimes, I feel that the word “friend” is so overrated.  Some people use it to address mere strangers or even acquaintances.  Of course, there are classifications— close friend, best friend, special friend, good friend, or just plain and simple friend.

Mr. Oxford defines friend as a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection.  Beyond that, we resort to the additional adjectives attached to the word friend already mentioned above. 

If I have to count my friends (excluding my confraternal brods and sisses and relatives) in my own definition and standards, I can say that I only have five friends so far in the truest sense of the word. 

These people have already proven their worth, intentionally or otherwise. They have earned my trust and respect regardless of the years that we’ve known each other.  Whether or not they feel and think the same way for me, it’s not really a question anymore of mutuality.

The true test of friendship, anyway, is accepting the person for what she or he is without expecting the same kind of treatment in return.  Real friendship never demands.  Rather, it always understands.

01
Oct

Cousins’ Wisdom

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Categories: Life

There are still two powerpoint presentations and a research proposal for me to finish, all due this Saturday, but I just couldn’t resist the urge to write this entry.

We went to my Aunt Elvie’s wake yesterday and I was only hoping for the usual chitchats with relatives.  Talking with my two cousins who I haven’t seen in years, however, was worth more than the visit itself.

When I last saw them, they were just toddlers.  Now, look how they’ve grown!  They have relocated years ago in Marikina, Manila so we rarely saw them for the past 20 years.  After our grandparents died (my dad and their mom are siblings), reunions every December 31st became a thing of the past.

I admire the way their parents raised them to be God-fearing individuals.  They think more maturely than their age of 26 (Enrico) and 23 (Miller) respectively.  I was so amused listening to them talking about love for parents, acceptance, life and death, and respect (for women).  Enrico, for one, is a loyal boyfriend to an Atenista-gf working abroad despite the presence of many other pretty colegialas in their office.  (Cuz, talaga lang ha… Hahaha! Joke. I know good boy ka talaga kasi wala naman yata sa lahi natin ang nangangaliwa. Hahaha!)

Miller, on the other hand, is an epitome of grace, friendliness, confidence, and sincerity.  I am amazed by the way she conducts herself despite the lingering or questioning looks around her.  She could easily charm anyone without really trying with her smile and kakaibang kagandahan. 

I am not usually the type who really listen when somebody is talking nang dire-diretso but these two were able to hold my interest for almost two hours.  Meaning, they really have what it takes to deserve attention and admiration.  I am sure their mom is so proud of them wherever she is now.

And the greatest lesson I’ve learned from them?  “Thy Will be done.”  According to Miller, it’s what their mom has instilled in them especially during hours of trials and difficulties.  She believed that the only Person who can make or unmake us is Him.

A writer whose surname is coincidentally “Cousins” wrote an inspiring view on death:

“Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” — Norman Cousins