Senti Queen

Long before the movie version was shown, I have already read the book of the same title of this New York bestseller on relationships.  In summary, the author only emphasized that (girls, pay attention!) a guy is not that into you if he is not calling you, not asking you out, or not making love with you (or in whatever way or context you may call it.. haha!).

I decided to add some more to the somewhat bitin list.  So here’s my take on the issue.  A person is not that into you if he or she…

• only calls you because he or she needed something from you
• asks you out because you offered to pay the bill
• wants to make love with you because he or she has been feeling tigang for the past few weeks
• flirts with someone else because he or she wants to make you feel jealous
• lies about things because he or she does not want to be confronted
• makes you as his or her “spare tire” because the other guy or girl may dump him or her anytime
• is inconsistent with his or her actions because he or she is not sure about committing himself or herself to you
• marries you for the wrong reasons (read: he does not make a romantic proposal at all and he’s just doing it out of necessity)
• hates you because there are things you do not love about him or her

On the other hand, he or she is REALLY INTO YOU if he or she…

• sends you text messages every day even if you do not reply at once or at all
• makes you as his or her No. 1 featured friend on Friendster even if you two are not really “friends” yet
• surprises you with little things you love even if you hate surprises
• brings you food even if you do not ask him or her to buy
• invites you to watch movies you like even if he or she does not like them (read: horror movies or cheesy chick flicks)
• composes poems or songs for you even if you find them corny or mushy
• spends time with you even if he or she is damn too busy with more important things
• wants to marry you even if he or she does not believe in the idea of marriage (ala Ben Affleck in the movie–my favorite scene!)
• loves you just the same even if there are things that he or she hates about you

In short, a person who is truly in love does things for you not “because of” but “in spite of”.  As for me, I could never imagine myself being with someone who is not that into me as I am into him.  Though others may find this a bit conditional, mutual love and attraction in almost the same degree do pay in the long run.